In the Closet? Why I Chose to Finally Come Out #brloveislove

So today’s post is a bit different for me. I’m going to tell you why it took me so long to “come out of the closet” to my subscribers.  If you only follow me here, on the blog, then you may not even know what the heck I’m talking about! Either way, I’m going to give you guys a little history of my relationship and why I chose not to openly discuss it on my

9E720542-86CF-42CB-B0D9-8B0B57DFF05E I’ve always been a private person. I guess it was the way I was raised. My Grandmother was always private, and really didn’t put people in our business, especially family/personal issues. I must’ve gotten those characteristics from her, because sometimes I’m TOO private. I think that’s why social media is a bit of a challenge for me (but that’s another blog post for another day).
FFD40A08-D422-4DD9-8339-607CB42EDB9B Fast forward to 2011, when I first started blogging. If you go back to my past posts, you’ll see that I’ve mentioned that I was married, but never to a woman. Yes, I’d talk about my wife from time to time in blog posts, but I would always call her Sweety. For people with a gay-dar, that should have been the 1st clue! LOL! I don’t know why, but I just didn’t feel comfortable. Some would say that means I’m not comfortable being gay, or comfortable in my skin. I beg to differ. I’m very comfortable. I just don’t like people in my business. If I was married to a man, the same rules would apply. I just don’t like people in my business. However, if I saw you somewhere or we went to an event, I most certainly introduced my wife to people. I’m sure most people knew I was a lesbian, but I just never say it. Is that weird?

Honestly, I’ve been my wife for almost 20 years, and I’ve never officially “came out” to my own family. They definitely know I’m a lesbian. They know my wife & I are legally married. Some of them were in our 1st (non-legal) ceremony. I even got rid of my family name, and took on hers. They love my wife (sometimes I feel a little more than me LOL). But, I’ve never uttered the words, “Hey, I’m gay” out of my mouth to them. Is that crazy or what?
E5AAF241-842E-4064-A4C4-5ACCAB4EDDF6 When my wife & I got legally married in July 2017, I was like “F*#% it, I’m posting our marriage pic today”. It was a moment that I was very proud of and wanted to share it with the world! At that point, I didn’t care who liked it or what they thought. You’re getting these gay pics today! Quite honestly, I’ve never been stuck on what people thought of me, I could care less & don’t take things like that seriously (reason #8579135 why social media is a challenge for me). The day we got legally married was the day I basically starting showing pics & talking about my wife openly & publicly . She’s one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. I wanted you to get to know her & love her too because she is a part of me, and you guys are so loving & supportive 🙂
C9232383-7FF4-49E6-B7B3-0834E23A6220 Did I lose followers & fake supporters, sure I did! Do I care? Hell no! Surprisingly, I got so much love & support from those of you who are real & just loved me regardless. So THANK YOU to all of you who love me for me!


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    June 28, 2018 at 3:09 pm

    You are so beautiful, inside and out, Prissy! LOVE IS LOVE

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      June 29, 2018 at 9:47 am

      Hey An! Thank you so much, Doll! #lovewins

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    June 28, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Love this! I follow you on FB because I remember your wife from middle school. And I remember Ebony as one of the most quiet, confident and NICEST people in the school! A role model. I understand why you never “came out” as lesbian…same reason heteros never “come out”! You’re just being you. Good stuff!

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      June 29, 2018 at 9:47 am

      Hey Lydia! First, thank you so much for following & supporting me. The love is real .

      Second, you said some really cool things about my Baby, but they’re sooooo true. She has the kindest heart.

      And you are so right about “coming out”!!!! I’ve never thought of it that way . I like your take on it. I may have to start using that. Thank you

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    June 29, 2018 at 1:24 pm

    I love it sis. #goodfriends4eva

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    September 17, 2018 at 3:04 am

    I love this post so much! You and Ebony are both such amazing, strong women and are perfect together. Whether you shout it from the rooftops or keep to yourselves, that doesn’t change it and there’s no denying you were meant for each other!

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    Faith Victoris Shelton
    February 19, 2019 at 9:25 pm

    Hey Prissy, I don’t remember how long exactly I’ve followed you and why I’ve never read this particular post. But, I guess by now you know I could care less. Maybe one day we’ll all get past this need to “come out”. I love people for who they are and not what the world wants them to be. I pray one day to meet you both because in my head you are family and I just want the best for you both.

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